“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
It’s hard to believe that my oldest son is now married. My husband and I are over the moon with our new daughter-in-law, Gabriella. She is loving, kind and beautiful.
Before their wedding my husband thought is was important to give my son a few words of wisdom about this crazy thing called marriage. So here is it...
Marriage, the Great Adventure
Your mom and I were married very young just like you and Gabriella. We had no jobs, no money, and absolutely no idea where our journey would lead us.
As a new husband, the path I took was rocky, but it taught me some valuable lessons along the way. As you are about to make one of the most important decisions of your life I want to have a man to man talk with you and share some of this hard earned wisdom about marriage.
Here are some things I wish I knew BEFORE I got married. Do yourself a favor and keep this list as a reminder.
1. Love With Your Whole Heart
To love with your whole heart is powerful, yet risky, at times. You have to trust the other with your hearts. Love deeply Nick. Hold nothing back. Make the choice to love your wife everyday.
2. Say I Love You Everyday
Love is both a feeling and an action. Say “I love you everyday” and show it everyday…in the simple things…doing dishes, changing diapers, taking out the garbage.
3. Have Humility
Don’t fight to win. Don’t try to convince her of your opinion. Just listen to her. Deal with your issues. And always say you’re sorry…humility is a key to a successful marriage.
4. Be Forgiving
You will need have mercy and be forgiving. Try to see life through her eyes. Never forget…during those rough times…that miracles do happen.
5. Cling to each other
Never take her for granted. . Treat her as if it’s your last day on earth with her.
6. Be kind.
Pick your words wisely for they can never be taken back.
7. Good Vibes Only
She can feel your love AND your negative energy and she will react.
8. Learn to Communicate
Communication is important in any relationship. Make sure you communicate clear, calmly and constantly. Listen before you speak!
9. Show Affection
Hold hands, touch her…and not just in the bedroom.
10. Hard to Argue When You're Kissing!
Make love as often as you can…it’s hard to argue when you're kissing!
11. Remind Her That You Are Thankful
Let her know that you are thankful to have her in your life. When she does something for you, remember to thank her for it!
12. Do the Little Things!
Remember to do the little things like putting the toilet seat down and picking up your clothes!
13. Keep Christ in Your Marriage
Pray together, attend church together, and put Christ at the center of your life. Your family will depend on you to be their spiritual leader.
And finally, never stop dating your wife!
I love you son!
The Art of Marriage Poem that was given to us for our wedding and it still hangs on our bedroom wall.
A good marriage must be created
In the art of marriage, little things are the big things
It is never being too old to hold hands
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day
It is never going to sleep angry
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives
It is standing together facing the world
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow
It is finding room for the things of the spirit
It is a common search for the good and beautiful
It is not only marrying the right partner
It is being the right partner
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