The Art of Marriage

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."

1 Peter 4:8

It’s hard to believe that my oldest son is now married. My husband and I are over the moon with our new daughter-in-law, Gabriella. She is loving, kind and beautiful.

wedding photo at camp hidden valley

Before their wedding my husband thought is was important to give my son a few words of wisdom about this crazy thing called marriage. So here is it...

Marriage, the Great Adventure

Dear Nicholas,

Your mom and I were married very young just like you and Gabriella. We had no jobs, no money, and absolutely no idea where our journey would lead us.

As a new husband, the path I took was rocky, but it taught me some valuable lessons along the way. As you are about to make one of the most important decisions of your life I want to have a man to man talk with you and share some of this hard earned wisdom about marriage.

Here are some things I wish I knew BEFORE I got married. Do yourself a favor and keep this list as a reminder.

Father of the groom tying his son's tie before his wedding
Giving Words of Wisdom

1. Love With Your Whole Heart

To love with your whole heart is powerful, yet risky, at times. You have to trust the other with your hearts. Love deeply Nick. Hold nothing back. Make the choice to love your wife everyday.

2. Say I Love You Everyday

Love is both a feeling and an action. Say “I love you everyday” and show it everyday…in the simple things…doing dishes, changing diapers, taking out the garbage.

3. Have Humility

Don’t fight to win. Don’t try to convince her of your opinion. Just listen to her. Deal with your issues. And always say you’re sorry…humility is a key to a successful marriage.

4. Be Forgiving

You will need have mercy and be forgiving. Try to see life through her eyes. Never forget…during those rough times…that miracles do happen.

5. Cling to each other

Never take her for granted. . Treat her as if it’s your last day on earth with her.

6. Be kind.

Pick your words wisely for they can never be taken back.

7. Good Vibes Only

She can feel your love AND your negative energy and she will react.

8. Learn to Communicate

Communication is important in any relationship. Make sure you communicate clear, calmly and constantly. Listen before you speak!

9. Show Affection

Hold hands, touch her…and not just in the bedroom.

10. Hard to Argue When You're Kissing!

Make love as often as you can…it’s hard to argue when you're kissing!

11. Remind Her That You Are Thankful

Let her know that you are thankful to have her in your life. When she does something for you, remember to thank her for it!

12. Do the Little Things!

Remember to do the little things like putting the toilet seat down and picking up your clothes!

13. Keep Christ in Your Marriage

Pray together, attend church together, and put Christ at the center of your life. Your family will depend on you to be their spiritual leader.

And finally, never stop dating your wife!

I love you son!

Beautiful Engagement Photo Idea
"My best one true love"

The Art of Marriage Poem that was given to us for our wedding and it still hangs on our bedroom wall.

A good marriage must be created

In the art of marriage, little things are the big things

It is never being too old to hold hands

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day

It is never going to sleep angry

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives

It is standing together facing the world

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow

It is finding room for the things of the spirit

It is a common search for the good and beautiful

It is not only marrying the right partner

It is being the right partner

Mother and son first dance at a wedding
Giving some motherly love and encouragement

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Welcome to our home, my name is Michele. My husband, Walter, and I have been happily married (most of the time) for 28 years. My husband is the Pastor of Strong Tower Church while I work as a Critical Care Nurse. Together, we have been blessed with 10 beautiful children.

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